Enjoy the Writing Journey

Dreaming big and working towards goals is great. But what happens when our ego takes over and all we can think about is when? When will I get an agent? When will I be published?

What happens when anxiety sets in and all we can this about is why? Why am I being rejected? Why am I not good enough?


Ultimately thinking like this will result in doubt and a feeling of failure.


Take a moment to remember why you started writing in the first place. What do you enjoy about writing? I’m sure no one wrote their first flash fiction or poetic prose with an endgame in site. We did it for fun, for passion, for joy.

Enjoy the journey - Benedict Cumberbatch
– Benedict Cumberbatch

Don’t let your aspirations stifle that wonderful energy. While our dreams as authors may be similar, our paths and unique abilities never are.


Allow the ego to set daily intensions: Maybe to hit a word count. Perhaps edit a chapter. Or learn how to use a particular social media. But don’t let it plot, plan and pinpoint every turn in your future. That will lead to disharmony and stress, because nothing is for certain.

pexels- ideas, pin-board, character files, novels, writing

What we can take control of is this moment. So relax and enjoy the process. Choose to enjoy your family, saviour the dog walk or curl up on the sofa and read. Realise that life is good now, it’s the only time that truly matters.

Do you struggle with waiting for the outcome? Maybe you’ve wrestle with desire and a feeling of being imcomplete.

How do you deal with those emotions? Please share your journey with me, you know I love to hear from  you.

Until next time, Much Love xx

Author Lorraine Ambers - YA fantasy romance writer

Pinterest    Instagram    Twitter    Facebook

© Author Lorraine Ambers and http://www.lorraineambers.com, 2018.

30 thoughts on “Enjoy the Writing Journey

  1. madisonsinkwell

    I enjoy your posts so much. They serve as a great reminder of why I love writing and why I’m doing this when things get stressful or I put too much pressure on myself. Thank you!

    Liked by 3 people

  2. Tenacity and a schedule are, to me, the most important things a writer needs.

    While I was writing my debut novel, I used whatever spare time I could find. And I got little accomplished.
    When I had surgery to repair a torn bicep tendon I was off work for ten weeks. I couldn’t use my right arm to lift anything, but I would type. I watched tv in the morning but from noon til dinnertime was writing time. I wrote the last half of my novel in those ten weeks while the first half only took about six years.

    When you’re ready to submit to agents, prepare for frustration. Half of the agents won’t reply at all when they reject your query. The other half give you a rubber stamp rejection, “This isn’t the right work for me, but keep trying.” Neither response lets you know what problems you need to correct.

    I was fortunate enough to find a very good editor on the website Scribophile. Normally an edit on a 90,000-word manuscript would cost a thousand dollars or more, but I got it for free. But by that time, after 30 rejections, I had already decided to self-publish.

    Time will tell if I’m taking the right path or not.


    1. There’s no doubt that setting realistic goals will enable us to accomplish great things. But when the going gets tough, it’s our passion that allows us to persevere.
      Having surgery is difficult, and yet you accomplished great things during that time. Well done!


  3. I love this post! Such a powerful message. Sometimes I get really caught up in thinking about when my book will be published, or when I have an agent, or when I finish this draft. . . that I forget to enjoy the moment. I enjoy writing regardless of my external situations (like a publishing deal or agent) and it’s really important to remember that my passion doesn’t depend on “success.”

    Liked by 2 people

  4. I haven’t yet “finished” my WIPs and thus reached the point of attempting to submit them to anyone. Thinking about all that can be stressful, and is not at all helpful at this stage. I just try to take things one step at a time. Right now, I simply enjoy working away at my writing and inching closer to a product I’m proud of – and that’s enough for me!! Thanks for the excellent post 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Thank you for the energetic words I needed to hear. Sometimes, I do experience my down moments when I think about how I will not be done with my first book anytime soon, however, thank you for writing this article I needed to read. You gave me that inspiration and push I needed to continue. Thank you. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

  6. I definitely struggle with the desire to break through, though I think a lot of it is rooted in wanting to spend more time on writing. I can be at work, earning a good paycheck (and insurance) and feel like I’m wasting time that could be spent writing. I feel like there are so many stories I want to write, in no small part because I can read them, but my writing process is slow, and in many cases I feel like “some stories” need me to become more proficient before I attempt them. Of course I’m always working on a story, but I digress.
    I think there is definitely a part of me that yearns for that more formal “seal of approval” which so many writers talk about.
    I remember listening to Neil Gaiman once speak on how people would approach him and ask him about the “secret” to being a writer. He would of course weave a fantastically elaborate tale of seeds gathered and nurtured, until they sprout into a great plant, and the fruit that it bears, and the birds that feed on it, and at the end of the entire tale he would say “Or you can just sit down and start putting words on paper.”
    But I think there is a way in which, regardless of what words people use, there’s an underlying idea that something separates “them” from us, and a desperate desire to become “one of them”, though I think even “they” struggle with the same doubts.
    Actually, there was another story from Neil Gaiman where he talked about going to events with very prominent individuals, and feeling like he didn’t belong, and encountering another Neil, who was an astronaut, and yet he also struggled with similar insecurities.
    At a certain point I think that “doubt” and “drive” may be a necessary part of the process, even as we sometimes need to stop and take a break from it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. I loved reading this, thank you for your wonderful comments as it’s very well timed. I’m having a batch of writers doubt at the moment. But thanks to this wonderful community of writers I’m able to accept it graciously as part of the process. I’ll have a little rest and then jump back into action.

      Liked by 1 person

  7. Pingback: Perseverance in your Dream – Lorraine Ambers

  8. Pingback: Ten Steps… Stop Daydreaming and Start Growing your Business – Lorraine Ambers

  9. Pingback: 7 Writing tips by Lorraine Ambers – Lorraine Ambers

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.